Mar 26, 2006

Mary Winkler "Sorry For Everything She Has Done"

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Left: Photographs of 1-year-old Breanna Winkler and Mary Winkler from a bulletin board at the Fourth Street Church of Christ

(Selmer, TN) In the first words spoken by Mary Winkler that have been conveyed to the public, the wife of slain minister Matthew Winkler expressed remorse for shooting her husband in the back.

Church member Pam Killingsworth visited Mrs. Winkler after Sunday services at the Fourth Street Church of Christ. Killingsworth said the preacher's wife gave no indication why she shot her husband of 10 years.

"She just said she was sorry and for me to write a note to the church saying that she was sorry for everything she had done," said Killingsworth. "And I said, Mary, we love you and we're praying for you. She did have a Bible once she got to the jail. Someone had brought her a Bible and she said she had been reading her Bible."

Sunday marked the first Sunday services since the shooting death of the popular minister. Church elder Robert Shackelford warned members of the congregation to avoid speculating about why Mary Winkler killed her husband.

"Perhaps over time we will better understand why this has happened," Shackelford said. "Be very cautious about what you say or even what you think."

Shackelford asked that the congregation pray for the children, their grandparents and Mrs. Winkler.

"Mary is a member of this church family," he told the faithful. "If we don't have forgiveness, then we don't have anything."

Matthew Winkler's funeral has been scheduled for Tuesday in Selmer, TN.

22 comments:

Anonymous said...

How completely bizarre! What do you make of this, Mike?

Newsguy said...

Well as Ed Norton said once to Ralph Norton in The Honeymooners, "if you didn't want to argue what'd you get married for?"

But this takes it a little beyond that.

r peterson said...

I wonder what the motive was. I read something about the police not ruling out infidelity. I wonder if that is why everything is so hush hush right now. Maybe they are waiting for someone elso to come forward to complete the story...

Stefan Schmidt said...

Personally, I don’t find this incident bizarre.

She was obviously stressed and relieved it by shooting her husband.

The cause of her stress is not important--- I hope she’s executed.

Anonymous said...

Yes i agree, Perhaps over time we will have a better understanding of why this happened...so until then... "Let you who is without sin cast the first stone". HELLO.......Is anyone out there!!!

Casey said...

This whole thing seems like a big allegory or morality play or something, like it would only happen in a Dostoevsky novel.

Anonymous said...

If we wear the name Christian...we HAVE to forgive.....and we shouldn't talk out of both sides of our mouth. So let us reason together... showing forgiveness...and give Mary her day in court.

Stephanie said...

"Let you who is without sin cast the first stone"

American justice isn't Biblical. American justice is trial by jury, then sentencing by a judge.

Does Ten. (I think that's where she's going?) have the death penalty?

historymike said...

Yes, Tennessee has the death penalty, although the state has only executed one person since 1976.

Tennessee currently has 108 prisoners on death row, only 2 of whom are women.

Fancy said...

The authorities still not disclosing the alledged motive...leaves us thinking these guys must also be in charge of our National Security...and to rationalize all this hush hush...might just be to protect the innocent. Who could be more innocent in this situation than the children?

Anonymous said...

As a Pastor's wife, I understand the stress of always having to be perfect can bring. However, this just goes to show you never know what is going on in the lives of people. Personally, if I ever felt so stressed that I wanted out - I would just leave - run away. If the problem is a domestic or abuse of the kids or wife, I would have met with the police in the presence of the deacons of the church. This is very puzzling.

Anonymous said...

My heart goes out to the children. What, yet, another example where the innocent have to pay for the irrational behavior of an adult. Please understand that I'm not pointing my finger at anyone. Only God and the person who commited the crime have the answers. What a stigma these incredibly young and innocent children have on them. Who are we not to forgive? God forgives us everytime we ask for pardon. This is a time when everyone should take their own pulse and be careful of passing judgement. Lets face it, were you there in their bedroom when this took place? Me either! So, we each know the same thing - nothing.

Anonymous said...

I THINK THAT WHEN SOMEONE MAKES A POST THAT THIS WOMAN DESERVES THE DEATH PENALTY, THEY ARE IN NO WAY BETTER THAN SOMEONE WHO MURDERS. MAY THE CHILDREN OF THIS FAMILY FIND SOME PEACE. THEY WILL NEED MUCH SUPPORT, LOVE AND GUIDANCE. THERE IS PROBABLY MUCH MORE TO THIS STORY THAN WHAT HAS BEEN DISPLAYED BY THE MEDIA. THE MEDIA ONLY POSTS WHAT WILL SELL THEIR NEWS PAPERS OR PROGRAMS. SHAME ON THEM. TO THE FAMILY OF THE ACCUSED, MAY IT BE HER MOTHER, FATHER, GRANDMOTHER, GRANDFATHER, SISTER, BROTHER, ECT.. LOVE HER AND BE THEIR FOR HER IN ANY WAY POSSIBLE. WHEN YOU TRUELY LOVE SOME ONE YOU LOVE THEM UNCONDITIONALLY. NOT JUST WHEN THEY MAKE ALL THE RIGHT CHOICES, OR SAY THE RIGHT THINGS. WHOMEVER ARE CARING FOR HER CHILDREN REMEMBER TO NEVER NEVER INSTILL ANGER OR HATE OF ANY KIND IN THEM. THEIR IS WAY TO MUCH HATE IN THE WORLD. YES, I HAVE BEEN THROUGH A SITUATION OF THIS NATURE AND HAVE BEEN THROUGH ALL THE SAME FEELINGS. MAY GOD BE WITH ALL THE FAMILIES, FRIENDS, AND MOST OF ALL THE CHILDREN.

Anonymous said...

I know the grandparents with whom the children are staying. Rest assured they will provide a loving and caring home for their granddaughters.

Anonymous said...

THANK GOD FOR THESE WONDERFUL GRANDPARENTS. MY HAT GOES OFF TO THEM.

SoCalSandy said...

Not bizarre - very common, actually. The majority of murder victims were murdered by someone they knew well. I wonder what people would be saying or thinking if it were the husband who shot the wife? There has to be a reason behind her actions and I'm sure, in time, we'll all know what it was. I think she's smart for keeping quiet and letting the facts come out on their own. In the meantime, we should NOT judge her...leave that up to the jury. I lived with an abusive husband for five years and, God forgive me, I felt like killing him just about every day. Our friends and family, however, had NO IDEA things were so bad and were totally shocked when I finally mustered the courage to divorce his sorry butt! My point?? No one really knows what goes on behind closed doors...I was REALLY good at hiding my distress...but I understand how one could easily lose it at any time and resort to murder to "solve" their problem.

historymike said...

Agreed, SoCal Sandy.

Without disclosing too much personal information, I have had very good reason to detest two or three people over the course of my life.

I used to find myself running through mental scenarios in which I sought vengeance in very violent means.

No matter how bad the situation is, though, solving difficult problems through killing only makes matters worse.

In Mary's case, she now has three young daughters who have lost a dad AND a mom.

There was a point in my life when I would curse God and raise my fists to the heavens in anguish (no Biblical renting of garments, though)

I have now reached the point in my life where I can see that, despite being beset with traumatic events, I have been able to learn from the things that have happened.

More importantly - I am now in a position to pass along the insight and wisdom gained from survival.

I thank God for at least that much. He and I are still trying to accommodate one another.

:-}

Anonymous said...

HELLOOOOOOOO!!!! Are you forgetting the basics here? She killed her husband (shot him in the BACK no less, how weak is that???) and the father of her children. That is MURDER. If there are "issues" at home you get counseling or you just plain havethe guts to leave his sorry a--

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William said...

..so let's say she caught him in the act of doing something very disturbing to one of the girls..maybe it was the second time..maybe the third...Maybe no matter how hard she or they prayed it didn't work...so it was time to take care of it herself and let God sort it out...I am a father of three girls...I would hope my wife would have put a bullet between my eyes if I had ever done anything to harm one of them...Maybe it's not her...maybe it was him..maybe he was the sick one..and she found the cure...

Anonymous said...

My heart goes out to this family. You really don't know what it is like behind closed doors. My dad was an elder in the church and he molested me and my sister for 8 years. There was also mental and physical abuse. No one even had a clue and some still believe we lied about our allegations against a good Christian man. I think the thing to focus on is the forgiveness given by the family. True forgiveness is the hardest thing in the world to do. I know. I forgave my family. My parents never went to jail for the abuse and my sister and brother have yet to forgive them. I watch their lives spiral in hatred. Do not wish the death penalty for Mary. Wish for mercy as one day you may find yourself on the other side of forgiveness.