He who seeks rest finds boredom. He who seeks work finds rest. -- Dylan Thomas
Sadly, I used to do that :)
One of mine had what's called febrile seizures, normally the body does not seize until a very high temperature threshold but in her case a seizure could happen if her temperature went over 100 which she learned she could do just by crying. I'll never forget the time when I heard her threaten her siblings that if they didn't give her the toy she wanted she'd have a seizure. Thankfully she outgrew it and I'll also never forget the day I called her bluff when she threatened me with it.:-)
Actually this isn't cute - it's encouraging the behavior. I am a firm believer in a open hand meeting a backside for this type of thing. Then they have something to wail about. I know that's not PC, but screeching kids and parents that think it's cute or funny aren't either.
Mike - that's priceless!Actually, do, I'm not sure that this is encouraging the behavior...By leaving the room and not giving in to the tantrum, hopefully the child will 'learn' the futility of the tantrum - that it doesn't gain anything. However, I fully recognize the "I'll give you something to cry about" phrase as I'm sure I heard it more than I wanted...
"I'll give you something to cry about" worked on me too. An early lesson on "cause and effect" since I never (that I can remember) chose to find out what the old man was going to "give" me to cry about.
Parenting 101:Extend the child a firm open hand applied as needed to the bottom.That will encourage the rapid unlearning of an undesired behavior.What a manipulative little ham :-)Being an enabler in this case should mean enabling the child to cry for a reason.
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